UJA Program Executive

“Let’s meet at UJA. That’s really where I come to life,” Rina Cohen texts me the day I’m set to interview her. At 5:00pm, I make my way through UJA’s revolving doors and am greeted by a security guard at the front desk. “You’re here to meet with Rina? She’s a sweet one,” he says knowingly. As we’ll soon find out, Rina has worn many hats during her lifetime, rightfully assigning her many different names.

We sat down to chat about her travels (an enviable rolodex of countries many only dream of visiting), and she doesn’t talk about the scenery or her packing essentials. She speaks candidly about her community work in developing countries and the impact we can all make in our own communities. Our chat ended quickly so that the full time UJA Program Executive and grad school student could run home to cook up a storm, as a host for the following night’s dinner. When I asked her how she balances her busy schedule she attributed her success to a great partner and time management skills. For more on Rina, read her full interview below!

Can you tell me about your educational background?

I graduated from Yeshivah of Flatbush—very proud Flatbush alum— and had a dream of going to Barnard. I loved this idea of stepping outside of my world and being on a campus where women were running the show. I jumped right into the learning—and there was so much to learn. I majored in Psychology and completed certificate programs in Urban Education and Women and Leadership studies.  The Barnard education program afforded me the opportunity to work in lots of different public schools in Harlem, Bronx, and Manhattan. I even had the opportunity to teach a civics class in to Harlem and Bronx high schoolers who towered over me. My students were passionate about community issues and were excited to share their opinions challenging conventional practices. I realized that they were never given the opportunity to engage in a conversation with their peers about these issues, nor bring about substantive change to their community. We worked together to come up with solutions that we could implement and we had a great time taking action. I had a lot of experience teaching by the time I graduated, and I appreciated the opportunity to be in front of a classroom. This experience also sparked my interest and ability to think about community issues.

How did you incorporate learning into your travels?

My parents always encouraged me to get out and explore over the summers, so I studied abroad many summers and a semester. It started off with a summer trip to Israel called Sulam – an Ashkenaz program – with a bunch of my friends. We had a blast. The next summer, I participated in a chesed program in Ecuador. I spent an summer in Israel working in a children's home called Bet Elazraki. I had this dream of going to Australia, so in preparation for another summer, I found a study abroad program with an internship. Being an observant Jew, I called and I asked lots of questions about how we might make this work. When I got there, I set up my own kitchen. My internship was at Jewish Care of Sydney, a mental health clinic. Every day we engaged in different activities with clients who were suffering from severe mental illnesses. It was hard work.

The following summer, I studied in Cape Town, South Africa, and participated in a community development program. I think what I loved most about that program is that I had been thinking about what makes a strong community, but I never had the chance to really study the subject. In the classroom, we were focused on grassroots community development, which at it cores meant that we wanted to help local communities create the change that they themselves wanted to see. After class we worked in the townships, which are the most impoverished neighborhoods. I am a white, Jewish, Orthodox woman and this one of my first experiences fully immersing in neighborhoods that are so different than my own. The program sharpened my ability to view the world through many different lenses and also recognize instances where my own worldview was hindering my ability to either form a connection with community members or understand a specific social problem.

Muslim Danish School in Copenhaggen 

After South Africa, I stepped into an educational program in Copenhagen, continuing my community and education work. My first placement was in a preschool located in the forest, where I reveled in the freedom of one of their most progressive styles of education: no set curriculum, just a few teachers, children and a forest. I was covered in dirt every day, and I loved it, but I wasn’t able to get Barnard credit for it.  My professor searched for a new opportunity. She asked me if I was okay being placed in a Muslim private school and I said “Of course, why not?” My professor said we know you identify as a Jewish woman. And I said, “No problem, I'm all for it.” In reality, I had a huge pit in my stomach.

I took a couple of buses every day to get to this school, and the students  called me Hojam Rina, like Morah Rina. By then I had worked in so many school and acquired lots of different names. I had been called Ms. K, Ms. Rina, Ms. Kattan, Hojam Rina, and Morah Rina. My title changed based on my context but I owned it in every way – or at least tried to. What was most compelling about the experience working in the Muslim private school was that I had found a comfort and a home that I wasn't able to find in other communities in Copenhagen. And to be honest, it was shocking to me. Hojam Lelah was my co-teacher-- she only wore green, because she loved nature. I didn't plan on telling her I was Jewish on the first day but I had to mention an upcoming Jewish holiday. I was shocked when she said “You should be careful, the cookies in the teachers room  aren’t marked.” Marked? How did she know?! She welcomed me with open arms and made me feel that my Jewish identity was not something I needed to hide. Actually, our religious identities allowed us to form a strong connected. I wasn't receiving the same openness to my religious identity within other Danish communities. I was very warmly embraced in that community and I connected to many young women who had tremendous aspirations. I will never forget the joy of the young girls would go into a “girl's room” and they would quickly take off all of their head scarfs and blast music. One of the girls shared that she wanted to be a doctor, while also acknowledging that her religious identity would make it hard for her. At the time, there was so much tension between the Muslim and Danish communities. I remember feeling inspired by her commitment to her religious identity and dreams. That really helped me shape my own Jewish identity and be proud of who I am and what I bring as a Syrian Orthodox Jewish woman.

How did you bring this concept of community back home?

I decided that it wasn't practical to be traveling for a living and wanted to find a way to translate what I love into a more local lifestyle. This was especially hard for me, because travel gave me an outlet to be my full self. My best friend, Rocky Solomon, connected me with an organization called American Jewish World Service, a human rights and international development organization. The CEO there was Ruth Messinger – one of my greatest idols – and a woman who continues to carry me through my career. She is a spectacular in so many ways. I had the chance to work as her intern that summer. It was an opportunity of a lifetime. From the subway to interacting with people, I had a chance to follow Ruth’s every move that summer. Humble, articulate, sharp, and deeply committed to community work. I watched her in action and started to dream about what it would look like to be a woman solving community problems in a bold and beautiful way. This experience was also my first exposure working in the Jewish nonprofit sector.

How did you end up working for UJA?

I was trying to merge this love for education, teaching, community, and international work. I was building relationships and working to have an impact on individuals, but at the same time I was noticing so many social issues that I wanted to able to solve. This required me to be one step removed from the client and that’s how I landed at UJA.

When I graduated, I put so much pressure on myself to find a job. I applied, applied, and applied again to several organizations. I did not know much about UJA but then again Rocky saved the day. Besides for being an awesome friend, she’s a great mentor and role model. I see a lot of Syrian women struggling with a lack of exposure to a variety of jobs. Up until my junior year at Barnard, I only thought I could be a psychologist, a teacher, or a consultant. I never thought that I would be able to find a job that could combine so many of my interests.  The job was a mixed bag of lots of different things, so I thought it would help expose me to lots of different types of work. My role has recently shifted— I’m working in what’s called the Community Lab, a really cool department at UJA that works directly with the community, responding to local needs and providing professional development and leadership opportunities. Within this department, I continue to design programs that help to foster professional and Jewish leadership. I also manage scholarships for a wide swath of the community. It’s the perfect fit for me. I’m working with lots of different members of the community – from undergraduate/graduate students all the way to executives at UJA’s agencies. I speak with lots of people every day, and it feels like camp. I ended up applying for this job, not knowing much about the organization (sorry UJA!) and I quickly fell in love with the work.

Tell me about graduate school:

I work in a very academic organization and felt a tremendous amount of pressure to pursue a degree. I paused and spoke to a lot of different colleagues and friends and realized that unless I really needed a degree, it was not the time to go. I finally got to a point where I needed a degree to grow in my career, and that was a master’s in nonprofit management. I needed concrete hard skills to manage talent, finance, fundraising priorities etc . I'm in a program at NYU in the Robert Wagner School for Public Service. It's an MPA—a master’s in public administration with a focus on nonprofit management. I'm at UJA full time and I'm at school 3/4 of the time. I take three classes instead of four each semester and it should take me about 2.5 to 3 years. 

How do you balance your busy schedule?

A few answers. My first answer is that I'm married to a great partner. We both take on new challenges and opportunities and encourage each other to do so. My husband is also pursuing a degree, which is super cool. I love coming home to a space where we're both learning and excited about what we are doing. The other piece is that I have become much more aware of the fact that women have to be a lot more creative than I feel men have to be. I'm fortunate enough to work in an organization where there are mostly professional, smart, and educated women – and they're all different. UJA’s workforce contains many different models of what it looks like to have family and Jewish life. I've seen women balance their lives in many different ways.  I’m hoping that as more women in the Syrian community enter the workforce there will be more models for what it looks like to balance work/personal life.

At the time when I was thinking about pursuing this degree, I actually hesitated and said it's too much to take on working full time. I don't know how I'll do it, it seems like a lot. And my supervisor, who's been a tremendous mentor, actually recognized that I was going to miss this opportunity because I was holding myself back. And as Sheryl Sandberg said, "You don't leave, until you leave." So my supervisor offered me the flexibility to go to school. UJA is supporting me in pursuing this degree in many ways . I'm in and out of the office all the time and that flexibility is something that I've been fortunate to have. My supervisor offered a very creative solution, opening my narrow view about how one would pursue a degree and balance school and life and wife and everything – she helped me view this pursuit through a different, more creative lens.

I've had to learn to balance and prioritize, so on a day like today I'm doing groceries at 8am and I'm going to be cooking all night. Because I want to. I'm not superwoman. I don't love women to have that perception of others because I don't believe you can do it all, especially not without help. I believe you can do it all at different times or at different levels. I believe in asking for help. There's a new concept out there called 'drop the ball'. I think it’s vital to be comfortable saying “This is something I can’t do right now,” and knowing how you can leverage your great home and work lives to get done what you’ve decided to prioritize.

 What advice would you give someone looking to work in the nonprofit sector?

Within the non-profit sector specifically, there are a lot of cool and interesting positions. If you have interests and passions and you need to find a way to connect the dots, there is a space within the Jewish non-profit sector for a lot of different types of professionals seeking meaningful work. I'm combining lots of different interests and passions. If you’re interested in nonprofit work, I would say to think firstly about what would be meaningful for you in terms of work. Is there a mission or cause that you're passionate about? What content of work is interesting to you? Second, what kind of work environment would you prefer? And third, what are your skill sets and areas of expertise? And I believe that, with some creativity, at least two of those areas can be weaved together. Hopefully all three.

Where do you see yourself in the future with UJA?

I'm particularly interested in continuing to help build and shape Jewish communities in need. I’m not sure exactly where I’ll end up next, but I have some ideas. At UJA, we’re committed to building self-sufficient communities through strategic grant making and research. We examine the root causes of large-scale social crises such as lack of employment, mental health challenges, and food security. I'd like to be able to take part in this work. I'm hoping that this master’s will equip me with skills to think critically about these issues and approach them through a variety of lenses.

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One of my first days in uniform!

I tried meeting with Rachel on several occasions to speak about her role at City Year NY but the time it took us to play catch up on our lives (leading to a lot of side eye from customers just tryna quietly sip their tea and get some work done at Qathra Cafe in Ditmas) did not permit us to properly speak about her career. After we commenced a Take 2 on our meeting, I was able to hear all about her college years at Penn and the career choices that led her to a youth development teaching position in Astoria, Queens. It turns out, we have a lot more in common than our curly hair and love for writing (she's not a newbie to the site!). Her answers were methodically philosophical that simply asking her where she saw herself in five years granted a response that took on a life of its own. “Ideally, I know where I want to be mentally and situationally, but I don't know what I'm going to be doing,” she answers thoughtfully. Take some notes. More shiny pearls of wisdom to reflect on, below.

What did you study in college?

At first I was majoring in History and I thought for sure that I wanted to go into medicine. I just thought that was the way I would be fulfilled in life because that's what you do. You either become a doctor or lawyer to be successful. Given that a lot of women here [in the community] don't necessarily have those types of careers, I was like, I'm going to do that. As years went on I kept taking on one step below a doctor. Then, at the end of my sophomore year of college I took a poetry and literature class with a teacher who basically changed my life. Just the poems we were reading made me rethink my entire life trajectory. I remember at the end of finals my sophomore year, I was like, holy crap, I don't want to do medicine, I don't even really believe in medicine. Obviously I believe in medicine, but I'm someone who doesn't really even take tylenol because I'm scared of drugs. So I started realizing I was more into socio-emotional and psychological stuff. I switched to creative writing and I began pursuing music therapy. At this point, I don't know what I want to do in my future but I know how I want to feel at the end of the day so I'm kind of using that as a compass.

What were your internships like?

A couple of summers ago I worked for a record label. I hated it, it was boring, I was doing bitch work; my boss was really nice but he paid me in Costco trail mix (laughs) and not in money. And occasionally pizza which I didn't eat because of course I was eating salad. I hated it, I was like, why would I ever want to be in the music business? It would just ruin music for me. The next summer was when I did Chokra [handmade chokers]  to make money because I was volunteering for a music therapy center in Mount Sinai-- The Louis Armstrong Center for music and medicine--which was really cool. I helped with a choir where patients who have suffered strokes participate in a music choir led by music therapists. That summer I started Chokra to make money and now I’m just gonna make Chokras whenever I need to make quick money. I'm not very good at making money so I have to do just whip up random things, because none of the job positions that I want to do actually pay me. This past summer, I worked for my brother in marketing. It was initially just to have a job and some sort of income, but I actually really liked it because of the creative aspect, like copywriting and social media posting. August is when I started training for City Year.

How does your love for music relate?

All the things I did in college were music-related. I did the radio show, that was really fun because even when I was super stressed and I didn't have time for anything, I would just go and play a really relaxing playlist with my Israeli music and my folk music. It just genuinely helped me. I did CityStep which you've probably seen all over Facebook, it's my heart and pride and joy. I love it so much. We mentored kids through dance, so we would go into Philly public schools and charter schools and teach a class of kids for an end-of-the-year showcase. It was a dance class with games and choreography so we used that setting to teach them discipline and teamwork. It's a very similar mission to City Year, very youth-development-oriented. From that I realized I can be good at this, I feel comfortable in this setting, and even when I'm challenged I feel somewhat prepared to face that challenge.

We made gingerbread houses with our kids during our After School program around holiday time. It was a freaking mess and I can never look at frosting ever again, but it was really fun.

What did you do when you were contemplating switching out of Penn?

Thank god my mom told me this, I straight up remember this conversation as I was standing in a park. She was like, “It's your choice, you have to do what makes you happy, at the end of the day people might make comments, but nobody cares. People want you to be happy, and you can't base your life decisions on what other people think and what other people would say because it's your life and you shouldn't be miserable.” Once my mom said that if by the end of the year I was still unhappy I could transfer, I knew I had their full support. I decided to play it out, see what happened.

My sophomore year of college, I was at the gym listening to a song called “Blame it on Bad Luck” by Bayside. The whole message of the song is about looking back on life and being like: Wow, I tried to use all these excuses for not making my life better or not taking steps towards improving myself or my life, but really I just dug myself a hole of self-pity that I eventually needed to climb out of just to be able to survive and live and do good things. After that, I started gradually becoming more involved and social on campus and eventually started loving my time at Penn.

How do you measure success?

Success could be making a difference in the way that you know how.

I was very lucky because even though my parents weren't career pressuring, I’m somewhat self-motivated. I wanted to make moves and I wanted to do things. I think because they didn't try to impose what their views of career success was onto me, I was able to come to a conclusion of: Yes, money is important and I need to eventually make enough money to support myself, but that reason alone is not something that would make me wake up every morning for a job.

I think also since where we're from women having careers isn't as much of a standard, it kinda eased the pressure. Specifically in our community, we put so much pressure on the men to make the money, to the point where a lot of guys I know feel as if they have to sacrifice what they want/what their purpose in life is to make money and marry and have a family. And it upsets me that people have to go through that. Yes, being a girl here comes with lots of pressures and expectations that men don't have to deal with, but career-wise I feel much more empowered now because no matter what I do, people will be impressed, or at least accepting. Granted, you'll get crap for everything from some people. But still, I can pursue creative or non-lucrative careers and be lauded for it, rather than have people tell me, “Oh, you're doing that?” And you know what? I'm taking advantage of it. Because if I have the ability to do what I want in life and the support to do it, then I want to do something that utilizes my strengths and that makes some sort of impact .

This was College Day at our school. We all wore our college swag (the one day we didn't have to wear our uniforms!) and told the kids about our college experiences and have them ask us questions. It was mad cute.

What is CityYear?

City Year is a non-profit run by AmeriCore. Its mission is to bridge the gap between what kids in public schools need or deserve and what the public school system provides them with. It's not limited to academics. It's very much in the youth development and socio-emotional realm too which is what I love about it. Throughout the day, I'm an ELA tutor for my students. I'm an assistant teacher in a way, because I work in their ELA and elective classrooms. I jump around and help the kids who need help, but I also have a focus list of around 8 kids that I am expected to get a certain number of minutes with every week. They call us ‘near-peer mentors’ so we're not your peers and we're not your teachers. We're almost more accessible if you need something because we don't have the same responsibilities as teachers, we're a little bit closer to you and more involved in your life. But on top of that, for socio-emotional learning, I have a focus list of six kids that I check in with every single week. I talk things out with them privately. With some kids, it’s keeping their grades up or focusing in class, but with other kids it’s depression and anger management and fighting with their peers. It really varies.

We also lead a 3-hour after school program during the week, where we do homework help and clubs. Last semester, I co-facilitated Performing Arts Club and this semester, I co-facilitate Storytelling Club!

That day we hosted a "VIP Lounge" for students with perfect attendance.

How is it challenging for you?

It's ridiculously difficult and I knew it would be because I had plenty of warnings from people who said to be prepared, be scared, because between the hours and the actual work, you’re going to feel overwhelmed. You're going to cry. It's exhausting. and I knew that. But I lowkey love a challenge. And from the pragmatic point of view, this is such good experience for all the things I want to do in life, because it's making me so disciplined and it’s harnessing a work ethic that I haven't needed thus far. I work Monday through Friday, basically 50 hours a week. I make a stipend which means that I make nothing. I wake up at 5am every morning and I get home between 7:30 and 8:00. My commute is an hour and a half. It is so ridiculous but so rewarding at the same time. And I absolutely love the people I work with. Both my students and my City Year team, they all just make me smile and laugh everyday, and that makes the days go by quicker.

Where do you see yourself in 5 years? I know that’s a loaded question...

I'm now using this motto that I'm going to figure it out as I go along. I'm trying to be okay with going with the flow. I'm going to try to trust myself that I could make these decisions. I'm excited for whatever it is, but I don't really know. Also I have a feeling that I'm going to change pace and change my mind so much. I mean ideally, I know where I want to be mentally and situationally, but I don't know what I'm going to be doing.

Right now, it’s rewarding and makes me feel alive to build relationships with kids and genuinely help them through things that they're going through and also teach them skills that they're going to need. Just being a mentor for them. I think in 5 years slash next year or two years, I want to be in a place where I'm doing something that feels like my skills and talents are being put to use and that I'm making some sort of imprint on whatever part of the world that I can. But I also want to be in a stable, comfortable place where I can have a social life and still care about my body and make doctor's appointments because I have the time to. And take care of myself. I don’t know if that’s a balance I’m ever to achieve, I don't know if its even possible.

What is something you would have told yourself before starting your college career?

Be comfortable with being uncomfortable a little bit. It's okay to not be stable all the time and it's okay to do something that challenges you to a point where your limits are tested, because that will teach you so much about what you can do and what you want to do in the future. Number two, and this is something that I have been working on, is trust yourself. Trust that even in a new situation and an uncertain situation you'll be able to navigate yourself. Up until college or even graduation from college, life was basically planned out for me, there was a trajectory that I was following and the end points were always near. You had a way to get through everything because you always saw the finish line. I was lucky in that I was never really in situations where things were uncertain. Now, after graduation, it feels like there’s this vast future ahead of me and I want to do all these things. Eventually I want to get married and have kids, and I want to have a career that makes me fulfilled. All of that is now shoved into the rest of my life’s timeline and I don't know how to structure that timeline. I don't know when those things are going to happen because, Lord knows, I have no control over certain things. So just being okay with the fact that you won't know your future and that’s fine, be that’s something I'm trying to look at as fun and exciting! It changes the perspective from being like, “Oh my god, my future's so scary because I don't know where I'm going to be,” to, “Look at all the things that I can do, look at all of the people I can meet in the next years that I don't know now.” It's overwhelmingly exciting and it just depends at how you look at it. So I would say we should try to adopt the lens of: “This is exciting, this is fun, let me soak in all of it and take advantage of every moment.”

Staring at the Many Faces of Human Complexity

It took me a long time to scratch the surface of my own human psyche. I still haven’t yet fully learned what I do subconsciously for others or what I do consciously for myself. Even though I’ve yet to determine those contrasting variables, I can see with clarity that for the most part, I know myself. And I would never change who I am to meet another person’s standards. The other day my mom saw an old friend in the supermarket who said (insert compliment): “Your daughter is so smart.” (insert the backhanded follow up), “When she goes on dates she shouldn’t show boys how smart she is.”, Normally I would’ve gone on a whole rant about that ignorant comment. That it goes without saying, I should never withhold my thoughts and opinions because it might intimidate/emasculate a man. But for the first time I stayed calm. I'm not offended, the same way I'm not offended when my grandparents call being gay a disease. I understand that people from an older generation choose not to educate themselves on modern truisms. Try as I might, I can’t change how people wish others would conduct themselves. The only thing I can do is stay true to myself and conduct myself the way I choose to.

Up until recent years, (and even now), pop culture would cast beautiful female characters as the dumb role. Beauty and brains were two opposing traits, foreign to one another. Even now it’s lauded to be both beautiful and smart, as if it’s an unusual pairing. It shouldn't be unusual at all. In a recent podcast I listened to, celebrity stylist, Karen Welch, speaks about society rebuking her for going public about her political views. People become *weirdly* outraged when celebrities or stylists or bloggers speak out about politics because it’s not their place. I call bullshit. Karen responds acutely to haters by saying, “I’d rather my beliefs be who I am then what I style on people. It’s a funny balance though, for sure.” I haven’t fully accepted every part of myself (who actually does?) but my honesty and self-awareness has made me susceptible to the many different sides of my character. If we have the ability to feel a wide range of emotions-- sad and happy and angry and passionate-- and have accepted that human factor, why is it so absurd to think we can be bad and good and the grey area overlooked in between?

You can be sweet but also assertive. You can be both cute and sexy (I have a troubled relationship with the word cute because it makes me feel like a bite sized cupcake that can fit in your pocket, and naturally, I don’t always want to feel like a cream covered pastry.) That I can be for the most part liberal, besides for disagreeing with x,y, and z. That I can be extroverted (I love meeting new people and I’m normally very sociable) but can also be introverted (I like being by myself and having alone time). I’m trying to look at myself as ONE person despite my different complexities, in lieu of feeling like I’m a paradox with twenty people living different lives for me.

In an old Coffee and Bagel, Shelly touches on the topic of ‘Multiplicity,’ and explains that as humans we are allowed to start, say, a jewelry business and then decide to do something else. The same goes for character traits, we’re always evolving-- who’s to say there is one way to be?

Am I making any sense?

Do these sentiments relate to your life at all?

Is anyone listening or am I talking to myself? Bueller, bueller? 

Trying to Enjoy the Process

I started my first job out of college this week. It’s not the job I thought I’d have last week or the week before. It’s not the role I’d been working towards or dreamed of the last few years. All my life I hated the color pink and here I am in a new office, my very own adorable little space, adorned with millennial pink doors and pink office tools running the gamut. The universe has a funny way of working.

When I graduated, I took time off for myself. I met with over 15 people-- mostly in the fashion editorial field from every digital site you could imagine-- seeking them out via google searches and Linkedin profiles. I accumulated an abundance of knowledge and sat on this huge heap of contacts and advice. I got rejected a million times over. I started freelancing and hunting down those contacts I made to write for them at the very least, if I couldn’t proverbially sit at their table. I started working for my dad a few days a week, what I deemed at the time the ultimate defeat. This was far from where I wanted to be. Being in wholesale, working under my father, was a future I swore I’d never fall privy to. I let myself follow a trajectory I didn’t lay out for myself, a plan of no plans. I ended up learning a thing or two sitting in on meetings with my father. I learned more about a work ethic and a business that sustains my family--until now I never saw or cared for its inner workings.

One week into my new job and I feel grateful to work for and with a group of women who are all inspiring leaders in their own right. I really think I can make a difference here. I’m learning and growing in a new environment but I’m still apprehensive about this new path carved for me. Again, this is not where I thought I’d be. I’m just shy of 23 and I’m trying to internalize the saying, ‘enjoy the process,’ or ‘you are exactly where you need be.’ But my attempts are falling short. I try not to be so hard on myself but when I compare myself to others who accomplished great feats at my age I wonder if my efforts are up to par. Am I doing enough? Will I ever be where I want to be? When I reach my destination will happiness be waiting for me on the other side? I am happy now, why can’t I let myself be happy even if it’s not where I thought I’d find it? If there's one universal piece of information I learned from the various editors I met with these last few months is that all their journeys were so different. That was the aspect I found most comforting. 

Sometimes I get this panicky feeling deep in my gut whenever I look around and see people progressing in areas of life that I’m not. I know it’s not a race but I always feel this notion that everyone is moving in one direction and I in another. Like I’m still here exploring. I understand that at no age or stage in life does anyone fully figure things out, (whatever that elusive thing may be), but I can’t help but feel like I’ll constantly be chasing my next desire. I’m not sure how I’ll fair settling down into one path when I have so many interests and passions about so many things and ways of life. Settling into one path feels like a trap. I always like to find the nearest exit signs. I like change. And I like trying new things. And I like being open minded. Maybe happiness is an eternal risk. When we feel content in our happiness we jump ship to find another island that will provide us with happiness (or really, immediate gratification), until we feel content again and go searching for the next big thing.

I’ve come to realize that a lot of the panicky feelings I described above has a lot to do with how I think life is supposed to go. “Isn’t this how the story is supposed to end? Wasn’t I supposed to be an editor?" To which my best friend will tell me time and time again that nothing is ‘supposed’ to be and that I can’t force what isn’t. I’m not where I want to be in my career but for now I think I’ll try to enjoy the process.